I had never considered that I needed therapy. I had no real presenting issues, and I knew, in general, that my life was good. I had a stable job and a loving family. And yet I had always had a feeling that something was holding me back. That I wasn’t achieving what I wanted to be. I wasn’t doing what I wanted to be doing.
It felt like an invisible, impenetrable barrier blocking the way. That barrier manifested itself in all kinds of ways including anxiety, addictions, limiting beliefs and a lack of self-worth. Every time I thought about; a career change, learning a new skill, fighting my bad habits, or even just trying something new for the first time, a voice inside my head would tell me:
“You can’t. it’s too late”“You don’t need to, and you won’t see it through anyway”
“These habits and addictions are part of you now. just accept it”
“The circumstances aren’t right for you now.”
And that would be the end of it. Normal service resumed. But these voices and nagging doubts didn’t warrant therapy – why would they? Even the sum of the little things getting in my way didn’t seem like they were affecting me enough, to the point that I couldn’t deal with them. Or at least accept them.
But that’s just the point. We shouldn’t have to ‘deal’ with these feelings and invisible barriers when we can live without them. So why settle for second best?
I was lucky enough to stumble into therapy sessions because my friend Charlotte was training, and I thought I’d help her out by volunteering myself, with no particular plan in mind. Little did I know how much it would be her helping me out and not the other way around.
To have discovered my limiting belief of “not good enough” and been able to so effectively reframe my perceptions of it and ultimately let it go felt like receiving a life-changing gift that I never knew I needed. I now want to be able to give that freeing experience to others.
All credit to Charlotte Melki. She is an excellent therapist.
And so to my ‘Why’
In his book ‘Start With Why’ Simon Sinek says that if you talk about what you believe in, you will attract those that believe what you believe.
In other words, what are you passionate about? Why? How can you impart that passion to others to help them achieve what they want?
I have always had an innate sense of wanting to help people; I just hadn’t found the right avenue to do that yet. And so, thinking about my ‘why’ – I want my clients to be able to live the life they want. Free from limitations. Why? Because I have experienced this change myself and I want to be able to open that sense of freedom and possibility up to others.
But this isn’t just about your career. It’s about anyone who feels there is a block in their life, including but not limited to anxiety, addictions, limiting beliefs, phobias and anything else that is getting in your way.
As my logo suggests, it’s about opening new doors, opportunities and avenues. And that doesn’t mean that everything will come to fruition. Of course, it won’t. But it’s about having the belief in yourself to try. To not be afraid to change or give something new a try.
I think there is still a certain stigma around therapy and making the commitment to get help. But I am passionate about making that not the case. Therapy is just another form of conversation — a way of getting you from A to B. From your problem state to your solution state, so why should there be a stigma around that? No clients are broken, and all have the power within themselves to change. It’s just my job to help nudge them in the right direction.
So if you ever feel like there’s something bothering you, give me a call or drop me a message. we can just have a chat to see if I can help you.
